Are the hairs on your neck standing up when you read adapting means failing safely? Are you telling yourself that you can't get through life without adapting? Do you want to adapt?
If you answered “yes” to even one of these questions, you are not in the minority. Many people answer “yes” to one or even all of these questions. One thing is sure in any case. No one who answers “yes” to even one of the questions will ever LIVE WITHOUT LIMITS in their current attitude.
Guaranteed!
Why?
There are three forms of adaptation.
Adaptation out of resignation.
Adaptation with rebellion.
And adaptation with kindness.
All three forms hinder life and prevent to LIVE WITHOUT LIMITS.
Some people live as they are; there's nothing they can change anyway, and everything happens as it must. They have given up and taken life as an unchangeable burden that comes upon them. Sad, you could call it waiting for death.
Some people get upset about everything, know everything better, and don't change anything. They have big faces and nothing behind them. I call them the classic dry swimmers who can explain the world perfectly to others but never get things done themselves. This is not an uncommon form of adaptation in the age of social media and permanent self-promotion. It is widespread everywhere.
Finally, there is a superficially sensible form of adaptation: adaptation with kindness.
The nice ones.
Nice is the little sister of shit, as Rebecca Niazi-Shahabi aptly observed in 2011.
Nice people don't get ahead.
Nice doesn't make you successful.
Why?
Nice is the most unprofiled form of adaptation. Nice people simply stand around in other people's lives like chairs and can be put to one side like chairs.
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But why do people adapt?
Some people answer that this is due to social and societal expectations. This is not entirely wrong, but it does not address the real reason for adaptation.
The real reason for any adaptation is fear.
Fear of the non-conformist path, fear of rejection. In the most profound sense, adaptation is the fear of being true to oneself, of realizing oneself, and of only listening to oneself and not to others.
Ending adaptation can also be the starting signal to LIVE WITHOUT LIMITS. Neither extremes nor crises are necessary for this. Stopping conforming is a moment of awakening and the start of never-ending self-realization—day after day, week after week, month after month, year after year. You cannot stop adapting a little, changing a little.
Ending adaptation means entirely changing your perception. It is the step from “you should” to “I will”. It is the step from discouragement to courage. And it is the step from “I can't do it” to “I can do it!”. Ending conformity is a moment of awakening that many people have described to me as incisive and enriching.
If you are a conformist, break free and wake up!
Decide to have more fun in life through self-realization. End conformity out of resignation or rebellion by standing by your desires and needs. End conformity with kindness by replacing kindness with politeness. Politely tell your environment that your coordinates have changed.
Self-realization means taking responsibility. You are the director of your life—no one but you. Some might think, “All well and good, but I don't even know what my path could look like yet!” This is neither rare nor abnormal, and there is a straightforward way here, too. Trust your intuition and seek a mentor or companion to motivate and drive you. Many people don't manage to get started independently, and it's not bad to be accompanied.
Self-realization requires courage, especially to say “no” and stand by yourself and your own path. Only with this courage can self-realization lead you to LIVE WITHOUT LIMITS. Self-realization is always an escape from the previous comfort zone by finding, discovering, erasing, and leaving behind existing limits.
As soon as you start, you will understand:
The best is yet to come!
Learning is an essential part of ending adaptations.
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